Idiaper has many incontinence products for women. Let's cover a few things here. Cloth briefs and usually unisex, though there are some panties. Pullups are more like underwear, while briefs with tabs are more like baby diapers. Swim diapers are unisex and protect from fecal incontinence in the pool.
We have great styles of plain or girly panties that are for incontinence. The all important pads are in the pads and liners section. Try reusable underpads if your bed is getting wet. Gloves and wipes are in the self care section. If you are having really heavy incontinence, try the heavy protection or overnight protection. It has some products in it, like the brand Tranquility, that is extremely comfortable and absorbent. A lot of people start there.