Self care for plus sizes is no different than self care for any other incontinent person. Many self care products can be located at the side of the bed for convenience. If you have skin problems, there are many products out there to use to work with your sensitive skin. There are wipes that may help that have different ingredients. There are skin care ointments and creams that may help soothe skin problems. Using reusable incontinence products and washing them in specific detergents can do a lot. There are many things you can try to help make your skin more comfortable.